Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast

Do you feel like you're always the one doing everything in your relationship, yet somehow still end up feeling unappreciated?
In this throwback episode of Codependency Alchemy, I'm revisiting five warning signs of a codependent relationship that can be easy to overlook, especially when you've spent your life taking care of everyone else.
From needing to be needed and struggling to identify your own needs to relationship anxiety, resentment, and feeling selfish for prioritizing yourself, we're exploring the patterns that can quietly leave you feeling disconnected from yourself.
I also share how these dynamics showed up in my relationship with Justin, what I learned about my own role in them, and shadow work questions you can take into your own healing journey.
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How do you know when you're making a healthy compromise versus abandoning yourself?
What happens when you're doing the inner work, but your partner isn't? And why can something as simple as hearing "no" bring up so many feelings of rejection?
In this month's live Codependency Alchemy AMA, we're exploring unmet needs, changing friendships, resentment, and the ways we sometimes make other people's choices mean something about our worth.
I'm sharing personal stories from my relationship with Justin, along with reflections and shadow work questions to help you recognize where you might be giving up your own needs to maintain connection.
COMING IN NOVEMBER: HEALING THE MOTHER WOUND
We're spending November exploring how our earliest experiences of love and belonging shape our relationships today.
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Why do we sometimes get emotionally attached to someone so quickly?
In this throwback episode, we’re going underneath anxious attachment to explore what you might actually be attaching to when someone starts to feel impossible to lose.
We’ll talk about why someone pulling away can trigger the urge to chase, fix, or overgive, the questions that can help you uncover what’s underneath your attachment, and how to begin tending to yourself when the fear of losing them takes over.
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Have you ever gotten into an argument wanting to feel understood, only to find yourself getting defensive, explaining yourself, or trying to prove your point?
In this month's guided Shadow Work + Inner Child Healing practice, we're exploring the fears beneath our protective responses, the younger parts of ourselves that show up during conflict, and what happens when letting our guard down doesn't feel safe.
Plus, an important conversation about when curiosity helps create connection and when curiosity alone isn't enough to make a relationship healthy.
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Have you ever looked back at the way you acted in a relationship and thought… oh my god, was I the toxic one?
In this throwback episode, I’m sharing one of the most vulnerable stories I’ve ever told on the podcast: the situationship that exposed some of my deepest patterns around anxious attachment, codependency, overgiving, fear of abandonment, and trying to control connection.
We’re talking about what happened when someone else’s attention became responsible for how I felt about myself, the things I thought were “love” that were actually being driven by anxiety, and how this relationship ultimately became one of the greatest mirrors of my life.
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