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Getting induced? Before you show up at the hospital with your overnight bag and assume you’ll have a baby by dinner, let’s talk. Inductions can take a LONG time, and there are a few things you really want to understand before agreeing to one. From your Bishop score to Pitocin dosing and the phrase “pit to distress,” HeHe is breaking down what you need to know so you can walk into that induction feeling prepared, not completely blindsided.

 

In this episode, HeHe shares five things to consider before an induction, including why you need a plan for a potentially long process, whether your hospital allows you to go home between cervical-ripening doses, and what to ask if you hear the phrase “pit to distress.” Yes, that’s a real phrase used in some hospital cultures, and it’s worth understanding what it means. HeHe also walks through induction-related risks, including overly frequent contractions, fetal intolerance, and the potential for a cascade of interventions.

 

Plus, don’t skip the Bishop score! This assessment can help you understand how ready your cervix is for induction and may help guide decisions about which induction methods make sense. Because the more you understand about what’s happening in your body, the better equipped you are to have an actual conversation with your provider about your options.

 

Because knowing what to ask is only half the battle, HeHe introduces Labor Live, a three-day, real-time birth preparation challenge starting November 1. You’ll practice asking questions, requesting time to make decisions, and even saying no. Because trying to figure out how to advocate for yourself for the first time while you’re in labor? Not exactly ideal. Join here: https://joinlaborlive.com

 

In this episode:

Why inductions can take much longer than you expect and how to plan for the process

Whether your hospital allows you to go home between cervical-ripening doses

What “pit to distress” means and why you should ask about Pitocin dosing protocols

How to recognize potential discrepancies between hospital policies and evidence-based guidelines

What risks and interventions may be associated with induction, including tachysystole, fetal intolerance, epidurals, hemorrhage, and tearing

What a Bishop score is and how it helps assess cervical readiness for induction

How your Bishop score may help you choose your induction method and medications, and when to ask for it

Why a membrane sweep and a follow-up cervical assessment may be part of the conversation

How to practice saying no, asking questions, and requesting time to make informed decisions before labor

Ready to practice advocating for yourself before you’re in the birth room? Join HeHe for the three-day Labor Live Challenge starting November 1: https://joinlaborlive.com

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00:00 Pit to Distress Explained

00:58 Labor Live Challenge Intro

01:25 Practice Saying No

03:52 Train Your Nervous System

04:36 Join Labor Live Details

04:54 Induction Tip 1 Long Timeline

06:20 Induction Tip 2 Going Home Option

07:36 Detergent Sponsor Break

11:11 Pitocin Culture Warning

12:50 Induction Risks Bishop Score Wrap

 

CONNECT

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KEEP LEARNING WITH HEHE

Want to know exactly what to ask about Pitocin? Grab HeHe’s free Pitocin Guide: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin

Want the exact words for saying no or asking for time to think? Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

 

LINKS MENTIONED

Labor Live Challenge: https://joinlaborlive.com

Truly Free (use code HEHE): https://www.trulyfreehome.com

Before you say yes to an epidural, there are a few things you need to know about timing, positioning, and who's actually placing that needle in your back. Because an epidural can be an amazing tool, but you deserve to understand your options before you're mid-contraction, trying to make decisions while your uterus is doing the absolute most.

Let's be clear: an epidural isn't a failure, and an unmedicated birth isn't a gold star. The goal is for YOU to make the decision that feels right for you, with the information and support you need to make it. In this episode, HeHe breaks down five things to understand before getting an epidural, including what she calls the "rotisserie chicken" (yes, really), why lying flat after your epidural might not be your best move, and why every hospital's epidural medication protocol can look a little different.

HeHe also shares a piece of advice that might surprise you: if you're considering an epidural, it's worth talking with your provider about timing before labor, even if you're planning an unmedicated birth. Add in what HeHe has learned from an OB anesthesiologist she follows on Instagram, why the person placing your epidural matters, and how to communicate your preferences to your birth team, and you've got a conversation you want to have before you're in the birth room.

Because knowing what you want and feeling confident enough to speak up when you're in labor? Those are two very different things. That's exactly why HeHe created the Labor Live Challenge: to help you practice making decisions, asking questions, and advocating for yourself before the real-life contractions kick in.

In this episode:

Why the skill and experience of the person placing your epidural matter, and what HeHe learned from an OB anesthesiologist she follows

What the "rotisserie chicken" is and why positioning after an epidural deserves more attention

Why epidural medications and protocols can vary between hospitals

What to discuss ahead of time if you have allergies, concerns, or specific pain-management goals

Why HeHe recommends discussing epidural timing before labor, even if you're hoping for an unmedicated birth

How to figure out whether you're at a "hell yes" or a "maybe" when making a birth decision

Who on your birth team needs to know your preferences and plan

Why information alone doesn't equal preparation—and what your birth confidence score has to do with it

Ready to practice your birth decisions before you're in labor? The Labor Live Challenge starts on the first of every month. Get in there and practice advocating for yourself before you're trying to do it between contractions: https://joinlaborlive.com

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CHAPTERS

00:00 Don’t Lie Flat
01:01 Birth Simulation Idea
02:37 Labor Live Challenge
04:08 Epidural Basics Intro
04:13 Anesthesiologist Skill
06:01 Rotisserie Chicken Positions
07:19 Medication Cocktail Goals
09:28 Purity Coffee Break
12:35 Timing Your Epidural
17:20 Practice and Wrap Up

CONNECT

HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/

The Birth Lounge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.birth.lounge/

 

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KEEP LEARNING WITH HEHE

Want the exact words for asking for alternatives, taking time to think, or saying no? Grab Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

 

LINKS MENTIONED

Labor Live Challenge: https://joinlaborlive.com

Purity Coffee (use code HEHE): https://puritycoffee.com/HEHE

Safepartum on Instagram (OB anesthesiologist HeHe learns from): https://www.instagram.com/safepartum/

Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

You made it to the hospital! You’re having contractions, you’re ready to meet your baby, and then someone tells you… you’re not being admitted yet. WHAT?! Before you assume something is wrong or feel like you’re being sent home to fend for yourself, let’s talk about what hospital triage actually is, why it happens, and how to navigate it without feeling completely lost.

 

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe breaks down what happens when you arrive at the hospital in labor, from the questions you’ll be asked and the monitoring you may encounter to cervical checks, IVs, and how your care team decides whether it’s time to admit you to labor and delivery. She explains why some hospitals use around six centimeters of dilation as an admission benchmark, why you might be asked to labor at home a little longer, and how to communicate with your provider before you even walk through the doors. She also covers why things like cervical checks and IV placement are not automatically something you have to agree to.

 

Plus, HeHe shares practical tips for making triage work for you, including when to call your provider, what information to communicate ahead of arrival, and how to let your team know about your pain-management preferences. Because if you’re hoping for an epidural or nitrous oxide, having those conversations early can help your team understand what you’re looking for. You deserve to know what’s happening, understand your options, and feel like an active participant in your birth, not like you’re just waiting for someone to tell you what happens next.

Knowing what triage looks like is one thing. Practicing how you’d handle it is another. 

 

Practice your birth decisions before you’re in labor with the Labor Live Challenge: https://joinlaborlive.com

 

In this episode:

What hospital triage actually is and why it’s a filtering process before admission

When to call your provider after your water breaks or contractions become rhythmic

Why you may be asked to labor longer at home before being admitted

What to communicate to your birth team before arriving at the hospital

What happens during triage, including contraction monitoring, fetal monitoring, vital signs, and cervical exams

Why dilation, effacement, and your overall situation may factor into admission decisions

How providers may check whether your water has broken

Why cervical checks and IVs are options to discuss, not automatic yeses

How to communicate your pain-management preferences before you’re deep in labor

What you can do while waiting, including walking and tracking your contractions

How to reframe triage so you feel more informed, prepared, and confident advocating for yourself

 

Practice your birth decisions before you’re in labor with the Labor Live Challenge: https://joinlaborlive.com

 

Get the exact words for saying no to cervical checks, IVs, and other interventions with Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

 

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CHAPTERS

00:00 You Made It, But You're Not Admitted?!

01:33 Introducing Labor Live

02:18 Join the Monthly Simulation

02:52 What Hospital Triage Is

03:28 Admission Criteria Basics

04:09 When to Call Your Provider

05:47 Arriving and Waiting in Triage

06:36 Triage Intake Questions

07:26 Checks, Monitors, and Options

09:26 Reframe and Next Steps

 

CONNECT

HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/

The Birth Lounge on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.birth.lounge/

 

KEEP LEARNING WITH HEHE

Want the exact words for the conversations that can make or break your birth, from declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions? Grab Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

 

LINKS MENTIONED

Labor Live Challenge: https://joinlaborlive.com

Scripts for Advocacy: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy

Pitocin is one of the most commonly used drugs in labor, but how much do you actually know about it before someone asks you to start it? It’s not about being for or against Pitocin. It’s about understanding what it does, how it works differently from your body’s natural oxytocin, and what questions you should be asking before it’s hooked up to your IV.

In this episode, HeHe breaks down five things every pregnant person should understand about Pitocin, from dosing limits and contraction intensity to induction timing and whether the medication can be turned down or off. She explains why synthetic oxytocin doesn’t work quite like the oxytocin your body produces naturally, why the timing of an induction matters, and why how Pitocin is used can make a big difference in your birth experience. She also explores concerns around high or prolonged dosing and how Pitocin may affect oxytocin receptors, including their role in postpartum hemorrhage treatment.

Practice your birth decisions before you’re in labor with the Labor Live Challenge: https://joinlaborlive.com

The goal isn’t to make you afraid of Pitocin. It’s a tool that can be incredibly useful when it’s needed! But you deserve to understand the benefits, risks, alternatives, and options before making a decision. Knowing about Pitocin is one thing. Feeling prepared to navigate that conversation when you’re in labor is another. HeHe shares how to take that next step with the Labor Live Challenge and her free Pitocin Guide, so you can walk into birth with more than a vague memory of something you heard on a podcast.

Get HeHe’s free Pitocin Guide: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin

IN THIS EPISODE

Why does synthetic Pitocin confuse your body’s natural oxytocin feedback, and what happens when it ramps up faster than your brain can register?

What do the FDA’s dosing recommendations actually say, and how do you find out if your hospital’s policy follows them?

Why can Pitocin lead to contractions that are too close, too hard, and too fast, and how does your baby handle that?

Why does the timing of an induction matter, and what do prostaglandins have to do with it before Pitocin ever enters the picture?

Can you really turn Pitocin down or off, and when is that a smart conversation versus one HeHe says isn’t advised?

How can too much Pitocin in labor affect your receptors, and why does that matter if you ever need help with a postpartum hemorrhage?

Why does knowing all of this still leave a gap, and what is the difference between information and preparation?

CHAPTERS

00:00 Pitocin Can Be Adjusted

01:08 Why Providers Simulate Births

02:44 Introducing Labor Live

04:15 Pitocin Episode Kickoff

04:35 Pitocin vs Natural Oxytocin

06:58 FDA Limits and Hospital Policies

08:35 Timing Pitocin in Induction

10:07 Turning Pitocin Down or Off

12:44 High Doses and Hemorrhage Risk

14:41 Practice for Birth Confidence

What does it actually mean to be allowed to give birth a certain way? And who gets to decide? Spoiler: it shouldn't come down to hospital policy, a provider's comfort level, or skills they were never taught in the first place.

In this episode of The Birth Lounge Podcast, HeHe dives deeper into Allowed to Birth, the documentary challenging the way we think about birth, autonomy, and the options parents are offered. From breech birth and VBAC to ultrasound, midwifery, and the fear that can shape the entire birth experience, this conversation gets into what happens when the system's limitations become your limitations. Plus, HeHe introduces the Labor Live Challenge, a three-day live birth simulation starting November 1, where you can practice making decisions, advocating for yourself, and navigating the unexpected before you're in the birth room. Sign up at joinlaborlive.com

You'll hear from experts featured in the film, including an OB/GYN who traveled to Germany to learn upright, physiologic breech birth skills; a certified nurse-midwife making the case for evidence-based care and real collaboration between midwives and OBs; and a midwife and sonographer unpacking how ultrasound can be a helpful tool without turning every finding into a reason to panic. The conversation also explores the global shortage of midwives, the difference between regulation and safety, and how fear affects the body's response to labor. Because information should help you feel more prepared, not more terrified.

The takeaway? You deserve options, honest conversations, informed consent, and a care team that respects your voice. This isn't about saying every birth option is right for every person. It's about making sure your choices are based on your individual circumstances, good information, and actual conversations, not fear or someone else's assumptions about what you're "allowed" to do.

In this episode:
Why birth options can depend on provider training, hospital policies, and the skills available in your area
What an OB/GYN learned while pursuing upright, physiologic breech birth training in Germany
How fear, litigation concerns, and gaps in training can influence breech birth and VBAC access
Why hands-on skills and true collaboration between OBs and midwives matter
How to approach ultrasound as a tool for information and planning, without treating every result as a worst-case scenario
The difference between understanding a baby's size or position and using those findings to fuel unnecessary fear
Why the global midwife workforce gap matters for families seeking more options
How regulation, access, and safety intersect in maternity care
What fear does to the body during labor, including the roles of adrenaline and oxytocin
How language and frightening messaging can shape the birth experience
Why hypnobirthing isn't about being hypnotized or magically having a pain-free birth
How partners can help you practice advocacy and prepare for decisions before labor begins
Why knowing your options is important, but practicing how to navigate them can make all the difference
Explore Allowed to Birth and find screening information: https://allowedtobirth.com

Practice your birth decisions before you're in labor with Labor Live: https://joinlaborlive.com

Explore The Birth Lounge: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/

Timestamps
00:00 Reclaim Your Power
01:23 Birth Simulation Idea
03:00 Labor Live Challenge
04:30 Allowed to Birth Setup
06:04 Breech Twins and VBAC Limits
11:19 An OB/GYN Trains in Germany
15:47 Why Breech Birth Is Limited in the U.S.
21:46 The Importance of Hands-On Breech Skills
24:16 Demanding Better Birth Options
33:44 What Does "Allowed" Really Mean?
35:39 Meet Midwife Whitney
38:47 Evidence-Based Hospital Birth
45:39 Collaboration and Accountability
48:46 Building Trust Around VBAC
50:04 Doulas and Team Culture
51:53 Gaps in Hospital Training
52:49 Redefining What's "Allowed"
54:17 Technology vs. Intuition
56:56 Ultrasound Safety Basics
01:00:13 Scan Limitations and Errors
01:08:25 Fearmongering Around a "Big Baby"
01:11:21 Ultrasound as a Planning Tool
01:15:52 Lineage, Trauma, and Power
01:22:33 Balancing Tools and Change
01:25:25 Non-Toxic Baby Gifts
01:27:34 Data vs. Certainty
01:30:37 The Reality of Emergency Planning
01:36:43 Ultrasound Limitations and Fear
01:44:38 Birth, Permission, and Autonomy
01:50:43 The Goal of One Million Midwives
01:58:45 Regulation vs. Safety
02:07:18 The Fear Response in Labor
02:11:30 How Words Can Trigger Fear
02:12:17 Adrenaline vs. Oxytocin
02:15:24 Induction and the Cascade of Interventions
02:18:35 Learning About Birth Without Fear
02:20:34 Hypnobirthing, Reframed
02:26:11 Debunking Hypnosis Myths
02:30:56 The Partner's Role and Practicing Advocacy
02:34:47 Planning Birth Decisions Ahead of Time
02:38:49 Who Decides What's "Allowed"?
02:45:45 Film Takeaways and Final Call
02:51:21 Inside the Labor Live Simulation
02:53:30 Final Wrap and Outro

Guests:
Dr. Bradley Meyer:
https://www.breechwithoutborders.org/bradley/

Whitney Pinger:
https://wisdommidwifery.com/about

 Amariee Collins:
https://radicle.my.canva.site/

Zulgeil "Zul" Ruiz-Ginés, LM:
https://kibimidwifery.org/about-the-team

Katharine Graves: 
https://www.kghypnobirthing.com/us/hypnobirthing-online-course
SOCIAL MEDIA:
Connect with HeHe on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tranquilitybyhehe/ 
BIRTH EDUCATION:
Learn how to stay in control of your birth and reduce the risk of unnecessary interventions in our Avoid a C-Section Webinar. HeHe breaks down the cascade of interventions, explains what’s really happening in the hospital, and shares practical strategies to protect your birth plan, advocate for yourself, and navigate labor with confidence. Perfect for anyone who wants a positive, informed hospital birth experience: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/csection
Feeling nervous about speaking up in labor? Our Scripts for Advocacy give you the exact words to handle the most common conversations that can make or break your birth experience. From declining unnecessary interventions to asking the right questions about procedures, these scripts empower you to stay in control, speak confidently, and protect your birth plan — even when the pressure is on. Think of it as your personal toolkit for advocating like a pro, so you can focus on your baby, not the stress: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/Scripts-for-Advocacy
And if you haven’t grabbed it yet…
Snag my free Pitocin Guide to understand the risks, benefits, and red flags your provider may not be telling you about, so you can make informed, powerful decisions in labor: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/pitocin
Join The Birth Lounge for judgment-free, evidence-based childbirth education from HeHe that shows you exactly how to navigate hospital policies, avoid unnecessary interventions, and have a trauma-free labor experience, all while feeling wildly supported every step of the way: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/
Want prep delivered straight to your phone?
Download The Birth Lounge App for bite-sized birth and postpartum tools you can use anytime, anywhere: https://www.thebirthlounge.com/app

LINKS MENTIONED:
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