The Sabrina Zohar Show

Do you need to be fully healed before you can have a healthy relationship? In episode 3 of 4 in the Clarity Series, Sabrina dismantles one of the biggest myths in dating and personal growth: that you must be perfect, secure, or “done healing” before you’re worthy of love. Drawing from attachment theory, nervous system regulation, and real-life dating dynamics, she explains why so many people feel fine when they’re single but get triggered the moment they start dating and why that doesn’t mean you’ve failed your healing journey . This episode explores the difference between awareness and real change, healing alone versus healing in relationships, and how avoidance can masquerade as self-work. You’ll learn what “being ready to date” actually looks like, how to stop hiding behind healing, and how to build self-trust by responding differently when you’re triggered. If you struggle with anxious attachment, dating anxiety, relationship patterns, or feeling stuck despite therapy and self-work, this conversation will reframe how you approach dating, growth, and emotional safety moving forward. If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE! Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Try out Rho Nutrition and get 20% off sitewide with my code SABRINA at: https://rhonutrition.com/discount/SABRINA This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Baked by Melissa is offering our listeners 20% off your order at Bakedbymelissa.com/SABRINA Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! ============================= Chapters 00:00 Do You Need to Be Fully Healed to Be in a Relationship? 01:45 Why Healing Feels Like It Disappears When You Start Dating 04:10 The Myth of Being “Healed Enough” 07:00 Healing Alone vs Healing in Relationships 10:10 Why Feeling Fine When Single Doesn’t Mean You’re Ready 13:15 Awareness vs Real Change in Dating Patterns 16:05 When “Working on Yourself” Is Actually Avoidance 19:05 What Being Ready to Date Really Means 22:10 Why Triggers Are Information, Not Failure 25:00 How Secure Relationships Are Actually Built 28:00 How to Build Self-Trust While Dating 31:10 Final Takeaway: You’re Not Broken, You’re Human Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to The Sabrina Zohar Show. This isn’t surface-level dating advice or feel-good relationship talk. It’s a psychology- and neuroscience-backed exploration of dating, relationships, attachment, healing, and what it actually takes to build emotional safety with others and with yourself. Hosted by relationship coach Sabrina Zohar, the show covers dating and long-term relationships, attachment styles, nervous system regulation, boundaries, communication, breakups, self-trust, and emotional intelligence. Episodes break down real-life scenarios like mixed signals, breadcrumbing, situationships, conflict in relationships, avoidance, anxious attachment, people-pleasing, and fear of abandonment using research, practical tools, and direct, grounded insight. You’ll hear solo episodes and expert conversations that move beyond clichés like “just let go” or “if they wanted to, they would.” Instead, this show teaches you how to regulate your nervous system, stop repeating unhealthy patterns, communicate clearly, heal old wounds, and create relationships that are secure, consistent, and aligned. This show is for you if you’re single, dating, in a relationship, navigating a breakup, or doing the deeper work of healing and re-parenting yourself so love doesn’t feel chaotic or painful anymore. Hit play and start doing the work to build healthier relationships, starting with the one you have with yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Neuroscientist Chris Lee joins me to break down what’s really happening in the brain when someone pulls away, shuts down, or spirals. We cover avoidance as a regulation strategy, why anxious activation hits so hard, and how state–story–strategy explains your patterns better than any TikTok soundbite. If you struggle with mixed signals, overthinking, or reacting fast in dating, this episode gives you clear, science-backed answers.We also get into emotional availability, communication during conflict, and how to create safety without overfunctioning. You’ll learn how to recognize your patterns, rebuild trust in yourself, and stop taking someone else’s regulation personally. Whether you’re dating or partnered, this conversation helps you understand connection with far more clarity.Learn more: https://www.drchrislee.com/If you’re ready to slow down, trust your instincts, and break your old dating patterns, the Healthy Relationship Foundations Course walks you through it step-by-step  HERE!Get Ad free HERE!Want to work with Sabrina? HERE!Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE!Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE!Please support our sponsors! Go to AquaTru.com now for 20% off (your purifier) using promo code SABRINA. AquaTru even comes with a 30-day best-tasting water guarantee.  Get 40% off your entire order at Lolablankets.com by using code SABRINA at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. Head to DRINKAG1.com/ZOHAR to get a FREE Welcome Kit with an AG1 Flavor Sampler and a bottle of Vitamin D3 plus K2, when you first subscribe!  Download Cash App Today: https://capl.onelink.me/vFut/mlzhc53l #CashAppPodAs a Cash App partner, I may earn a commission when you sign up for a Cash App account. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.   Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this In The Trenches episode, we dig into the psychology of mixed signals, friendzones, breadcrumbing, and almost-relationships. From slow-burn connections that feel safe but confusing to flirty “friends” who keep you close for validation, we break down how to tell the difference between a secure slow build and self-friend-zoning. You’ll learn why some people want your emotional support without offering real intimacy, how to stop filling in the blanks with fantasy, and what mixed messages actually reveal about someone’s intentions. We also get into situationships with no clarity, avoidant communication, and the ego-hit that keeps you hoping things will change. You’ll learn the markers of genuine interest vs passive connection, how to initiate the conversations that create clarity, and how to stop outsourcing your worth to inconsistency. If you’re stuck in limbo, questioning the dynamic, or tired of reading between the lines, this episode gives you the tools to see the pattern and choose what actually serves you. Struggling in dating? Change the way you approach every potential match in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Healthy Dating Foundation Course HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Get 15% off OneSkin with the code SABRINA at https://www.oneskin.co/SABRINA #oneskinpod Hero Bread is offering 10% off your order. Go to hero.co and use code SABRINA at checkout. Feel your best self, every day—with IM8. Go to IM8HEALTH.com/sabrina and use code sabrina for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets plus ten percent off your order. Treat yourself to gear that looks good, feels good, and doesn’t break the bank with Fabletics. Go to Fabletics.com/SABRINA and sign up as a VIP and get eighty percent off everything! Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This episode breaks down why waiting for someone to come back feels so intoxicating — and why it keeps you stuck. We unpack the psychology behind ambiguous loss, ego-driven attachment, the fantasy loops your brain clings to, and the deeper wounds waiting protects you from. If you’re torn between “I hope they come back” and “God, I hope they don’t,” this will give you clarity you’ve never had. You’ll learn how to tell the difference between missing them vs. missing the validation, why waiting functions as avoidance, what “they always come back” actually means, and the exact questions to ask yourself if they do reappear. If you’re tired of living in the “maybe,” this episode will hit home. Struggling in dating? Change the way you approach every potential match in 8 Weeks with Sabrina's Healthy Dating Foundation Course HERE! Get Ad free HERE! Want to work with Sabrina? HERE! Get merch for The Sabrina Zohar Show HERE! Don't forget to follow Sabrina and The Sabrina Zohar Show on Instagram and Sabrina on TikTok! Video now available on YOUTUBE! Please support our sponsors! Right now, Merit Beauty is offering our listeners their Signature Makeup Bag with your first order at MeritBeauty.com  This episode is sponsored by Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month of Betterhelp at betterhelp.com/sabrina Get $10 off and FREE shipping at Nutrafol, code is SABRINA nutrafol.com Find your curl confidence and take the Curl Quiz at Curlsmith.com to get 10% off your first purchase, or shop Curlsmith now at Ulta Beauty. Disclaimer: The Sabrina Zohar Show, formerly known as Do The Work, is not affiliated with A.Z & associates LLC in any capacity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices