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Two weeks into a new house, Deanna is still living out of boxes on purpose.
She's running a Packing Party, and while she unpacks, she's doing something that matters more than where the dishes go. She's deciding how this house will work before it fills up.
After 17 moves, she knows a house decides how it works in the first few weeks whether you're paying attention or not. So this episode is the three house rules she's putting in place, all built on one framework: if this, then that.
A real rule has two parts. A trigger you'll actually notice, and one action. "Be tidier" isn't a rule. It's a wish with a stern voice.
Rule 1, for the no: If you pick something up and know you don't want it, it goes straight into the donation bin. No setting it back down and deciding all over again next week.
Rule 2, for the surfaces: If you have a flat surface, put a container on it. A tray, a bowl, a basket. The surface isn't the problem. A surface with no boundary is the problem.
Rule 3, for the maybe: If you hesitate, it goes in the Pause Box, with a date on it. One to three months. And check the box before you buy anything new so you don't rebuy what you already own.
Also in this episode: why willpower fails exactly when you need it, why your cluttered house is a decision problem and not a caring problem, where Deanna's donation bins live while they unpack, the console tray, the entry bin, the fruit bowl, and how house hunting got her family on board with clear surfaces.
Your challenge this week: Pick one to three rules. Write them as if this, then that. Say them out loud at dinner tonight and let everyone add one.
Then come tell Deanna your house rules on Instagram @wannabeclutterfree.
Packing Party results coming at the end of October.
Show notes: wannabeclutterfree.com/329
[Next week: decluttering, tidying, cleaning, and organizing are four different jobs]

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Five nights into a brand new house, Deanna is recording from a room full of boxes.
The furniture is up. A few kitchen things are out. Everything else is still packed. And all three members of her family are about to unpack in completely different ways.
In this episode:
Method 1: The Packing Party (Deanna's). From Ryan Nicodemus of The Minimalists. Whatever is still in a box stays there until she reaches for it. She's giving it one month.
Method 2: The Traditional Way (her husband's). Open the box, decide on every item, finish it, move on.
Method 3: The Pause (her daughter's). Unpack what you love now, put the maybes in a box, and revisit them at the end of November.
Also in this episode: why moving feels so heavy even when you own less than most people, how Deanna searched every box she owns in about an hour, the sentimental things that earn their place without being useful, and why she and her husband are ready to pare down even further.
Your challenge this week: Pick the method that sounds most like you and try it on one space. Packing Party: box up a category and only take out what you need for two weeks. Traditional: empty one drawer and decide on every item. The Pause: put away what you love, box up the maybes, and date the box.
Then come tell Deanna which one you picked on Instagram @wannabeclutterfree.
Results episode coming in about a month.
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Show notes: wannabeclutterfree.com/328

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Deanna Yates thought the hardest part of moving would be the packing.
It wasn't.
Nine weeks ago, her landlord told her family she was selling the house they had rented for almost five years. It was the longest they had lived anywhere, and everyday there felt like winning the lottery. Now they're packing up the whole house in less than a week.
In this solo episode, Deanna shares six mindset shifts from one of the hardest seasons her family has had in a long time. Not one of them is about her closet.
In this episode:
Shift 1: It's never really about the stuff. Why her uneasiness came from feeling out of control
Shift 2: Same reach, different bag. How the donation bag and the Add to Cart button come from the same place
Shift 3: You can't declutter a feeling. What a waiting season teaches someone who likes to take action
Shift 4: "Just in case" is just fear. The crowded Labor Day showing that flipped her into scarcity mode
Shift 5: Stop chasing, start trusting. The late-night Zillow message that turned into keys four days later
Shift 6: Clutter free starts in your head. Let go, create space, release your grip

Plus the question her family is asking about every item they pack.
Try this week: Pick one drawer. Pull everything out. For each item, ask: would I unpack this?
Mentioned in this episode:
How to Change by Katy Milkman
Tindy, the 10-minute nightly tidy app: tindy.app
Show notes: wannabeclutterfree.com/327
Instagram: @wannabeclutterfree

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My clutter threshold broke this year.
I am a decluttering expert. Our house is not cluttered. And I still hit a wall, because we are in the middle of an unplanned move, my husband had back surgery, and I am 46 and doing most of the lifting myself.
That is the exact season I was in when Amy Nesbitt came back on the show, and I am so glad she did.
Amy is a full time corporate working mom of two boys, the creator of the This Japanese American Life YouTube channel, and the host of the Whole Wellness Mamas Summit, now in its fourth year. She is also the person who got me into summits in the first place.
This year she built the summit around four Japanese concepts, and they reframed how I am thinking about my own home.
In this episode:
Why the popular Venn diagram version of Ikigai misses the point, and what it actually means
Ma, the concept of intentional empty space, explained through the pause in a song
Why your empty counter is not wasted space, and why we fight so hard to fill it
The two minutes you sit in your car before walking in the door, and why that counts
Kaizen, and why going smaller than feels impressive is the thing that actually sticks
Kintsugi, the art of gold in the cracks, and why your hardest chapters are not the ones to hide
How to bring your family into something without becoming the household nag
Amy's answer for how she does it all, which starts with four words: it does not have to be you

Amy and I are both speaking at the Whole Wellness Mamas Summit, September 14 through 17. It is completely free, completely virtual, and you can watch in whatever you slept in. My session is How to Face the Challenge of Midlife Decluttering, which I am currently living in real time.
Grab your free seat
Show notes: wannabeclutterfree.com/326
Find Amy: Instagram and TikTok: @wholewellnessmamas YouTube: This Japanese American Life Books: AmyNsReads
Find me: Instagram: @wannabeclutterfree Website: wannabeclutterfree.com

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You will get rid of more in two weeks of packing than in five years of living in the same house.
Not because you tried harder. Because the rules changed.
Deanna Yates has moved 16 times as an adult, and number 17 is happening right now, unplanned and unwanted. In this episode she breaks down exactly what moving does to your brain, and how to steal that effect without touching a single roll of packing tape.
On a normal day, everything you own is already in your home. Every item has a spot. So when you try to declutter, each thing has to argue its way OUT, and if you cannot find a good reason, it stays. That is why decluttering feels like a fight. It is why so many decisions end with "well, I have room for it."
When you move, everything comes out. And now every item has to argue its way back IN.
Same stuff. Same you. Opposite default.
Deanna hands you the one question that flips it: Would I unpack this?
In this episode:
The real reason moving makes you ruthless (it is not motivation)
Why "I have room for it" is the sentence that kills most decluttering sessions
How to use the unpack question on your kid's artwork without feeling like a bad mom
What that box you never opened from your last move is actually telling you
Why show ready and move-in ready are not the same thing, and which one you deserve
The five minute photo exercise that will show you exactly what feels off in a room

Plus, Deanna is taking a small group through her move-in method in real time as she packs up her own home. Six years of helping families declutter, a background in property management, and 17 moves worth of lessons. Waitlist link below.
You do not have to move to declutter like you are moving.
Homework this week: Stand in the doorway of one room. Take a wide angle photo like it is a real estate listing. Then look at it the way you would scroll past it on Zillow. It will click.
Show notes: wannabeclutterfree.com/325 Join the move-in method waitlist: https://www.wannabeclutterfree.com/move-in-waitlist Come say hi on Instagram: @wannabeclutterfree
Next week: Amy Nesbitt on wellness, energy, and how to be a whole mom when your time is completely constrained.

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