Pretty Intentional

Is vanity really so bad—or have we misunderstood what it can mean?
In this episode of Pretty Intentional, Candice explores the idea that vanity can be sanity: a ritual of self-love, maintenance, identity, and choosing yourself. From losing her hair, brows, lashes, and sense of familiarity during cancer treatment to navigating reconstructive surgery, body changes, and beauty enhancements, she reflects on learning to enjoy beauty without becoming dependent on it.
The conversation also goes deeper into the history of women—particularly Black women—using appearance as currency, survival, respectability, and access, and what it means to reclaim vanity without centering men. Plus, we’re talking about dating yourself, setting your own baseline for care, and the beauty rituals we may have lost somewhere along the way. Because maybe Grandma wasn’t doing the most with those 100 brush strokes after all.
Vanity doesn’t have to mean insecurity or obsession. Sometimes, tending to yourself simply says: I am worth the effort—even when no one else is watching.
Because you are the occasion.

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The dating pool isn’t trash… it’s just smaller when you know yourself.
In this episode, Candice gets real about her dating life (yes, finally) and unpacks what it means to be single by choice—not by lack.
From shutting down wild speculation to exploring why so many women would rather be alone than under-loved, this conversation challenges the narrative around dating, standards, and self-worth.
If you’ve ever felt like:
You love your life, but still wonder about partnership
You’re no longer impressed by potential
You’re choosing peace, even when it means walking away
This episode is for you.

Have you ever had a moment where life felt… personal?
Like no matter how hard you try, something keeps falling apart.
Like the setbacks aren’t random — they’re targeted.

In today’s episode, Candice opens up about her own experiences with loss, disappointment, and adversity — from financial setbacks and job loss to cancer and pregnancy loss — and the quiet question that can follow:
“Does God hate me?”
But instead of staying in that question, this conversation challenges it.
What if repeated hardship isn’t always punishment… but pattern?
What if the issue isn’t just what you’re going through, but how you’re engaging with it?
And what does it actually look like to grow from adversity instead of just surviving it?
Candice explores the difference between suffering that shapes you and cycles that keep you stuck, including:
Why some people grow through adversity while others repeat it
The role of self-reflection, accountability, and pattern recognition
The concept of controlled demolition — and why some things in your life may need to fall apart on purpose
A thoughtful challenge to the idea that “God gives His toughest battles to His strongest soldiers”
How to reframe hardship in a way that restores your agency without dismissing real pain
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Why does this keep happening to me?”
This conversation is for you.

In this episode of Pretty Intentional, Candice Coleman delves into the complex relationship between anger and bitterness, particularly in the context of Black womanhood. She shares her personal experiences of navigating emotions in predominantly white spaces and the societal pressures that shape how Black women express their feelings. Candice emphasizes the importance of recognizing anger as a valid emotion that can lead to positive change, while also cautioning against the dangers of allowing anger to turn into bitterness. She discusses the physical manifestations of emotional burdens and advocates for honoring one's anger as a form of self-love and healing.

In this episode, Candice Coleman shares her journey of self-discovery as she embraces her role as an auntie while redefining what legacy means to her. She discusses the societal pressures surrounding motherhood, her personal experiences with health challenges, and the importance of choosing peace and joy over societal expectations. Candice emphasizes that legacy is not solely about motherhood but about the impact one leaves on others, and she encourages women to honor their own paths and choices.

Chapters
00:00 Introduction: Embracing Life as an Auntie
02:43 The Journey of Self-Discovery and Clarity
07:43 Redefining Legacy Beyond Motherhood
11:57 The Role of the Eternal Auntie
19:00 Conclusion: Shaping Your Own Legacy